You make a lot of great points and I find myself agreeing with most of what you're saying. It might just be a subtle difference in opinion because, while I believe being likeable is a virtue, and it's vital to our livelihood that we get along with others, I just don't think it does us any good to worry about what other people think. Our …
You make a lot of great points and I find myself agreeing with most of what you're saying. It might just be a subtle difference in opinion because, while I believe being likeable is a virtue, and it's vital to our livelihood that we get along with others, I just don't think it does us any good to worry about what other people think. Our moral responsibility is to treat others like we'd want to be treated. You mention a bunch of ways in your post about how we can do that and (9 times out of 10) people will like us for it. But we can't control the way people feel about us, so why not treat others really well and let the chips fall where they may?
Yes of course. It's hard to articulate the difference between being likable simply by being a good person and then the other side of the coin which is to manipulate people.
I hope you could see through the context that I obviously advocate for people to do well by others for its own sake, while also being intentional about the vibe we give to other people as an asset of sorts.
Oh for sure. No, I think I'm more questioning how far in either direction you should, or should not, care about what people think. To me, it's an interesting balance and I appreciate you exploring it.
You make a lot of great points and I find myself agreeing with most of what you're saying. It might just be a subtle difference in opinion because, while I believe being likeable is a virtue, and it's vital to our livelihood that we get along with others, I just don't think it does us any good to worry about what other people think. Our moral responsibility is to treat others like we'd want to be treated. You mention a bunch of ways in your post about how we can do that and (9 times out of 10) people will like us for it. But we can't control the way people feel about us, so why not treat others really well and let the chips fall where they may?
Yes of course. It's hard to articulate the difference between being likable simply by being a good person and then the other side of the coin which is to manipulate people.
I hope you could see through the context that I obviously advocate for people to do well by others for its own sake, while also being intentional about the vibe we give to other people as an asset of sorts.
Oh for sure. No, I think I'm more questioning how far in either direction you should, or should not, care about what people think. To me, it's an interesting balance and I appreciate you exploring it.